Most of the success in my life has come from throwing myself into what I want to achieve; often at the expense of proper planning and better judgement. My failures have significantly outnumbered my successes, but thankfully my successes have outweighed my failures. In the wash-up, the results allow me to live a comfortable life. And although, on a daily basis, I am extremely grateful for everything that I have; I would trade it all for love – the love of my life.
I often fantasise about someone knocking at the door with my dream ultimatum. The conversation goes like this.
“Hello Vin. I have found the love of your life. This lady with be your life-long love. There are no guarantees beyond the simple fact, that you both share the same fundamental values that will bond your life-long relationship together and you both share the same vision for your family’s future. Vin, I am here to offer you one thing - the lady whom with, you will spend the rest of your life.
In return, I want everything that you own. I will allow you to pick up your 2 dogs, keep the clothes that you currently wear and leave everything else behind. If you give me every last cent and every last asset that you own, then I will introduce you to the love of your life. What do you say?”
My answer is one word.
And this is why.
To me the decision is simple. It’s a no brainer. From a big picture perspective, I am swapping what I have now “nothing”, with what I vision as my future “everything”.
For me, I see it like this.
I am on this earth to be a great husband and an equally great father. Beyond that, and in comparison to that, nothing else matters. Nothing. I could never have, or own anything that would even come close to comparing to the feeling of a loving wife and children.
If everything I currently own equates to the world, then my future wife equates to the universe. She and the love we will create will be infinite – never ending. To compare the value is impossible.
So to have someone arrive at my front door and offer to reduce my asset rich life to nothing, in exchange for a love rich life of everything, then the answer is simple – yes…….even if it is, at this point in time, just a fantasy.
Thanks for taking the time to read my first manwithaplan blog. Vin