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Most of the success in my life has come from throwing myself into what I want to achieve; often at the expense of proper planning and better judgement. My failures have significantly outnumbered my successes, but thankfully my successes have outweighed my failures. In the wash-up, the results allow me to live a comfortable life. And although, on a daily basis, I am extremely grateful for everything that I have; I would trade it all for love – the love of my life.

I often fantasise about someone knocking at the door with my dream ultimatum. The conversation goes like this.

“Hello Vin. I have found the love of your life. This lady with be your life-long love. There are no guarantees beyond the simple fact, that you both share the same fundamental values that will bond your life-long relationship together and you both share the same vision for your family’s future. Vin, I am here to offer you one thing - the lady whom with, you will spend the rest of your life.

In return, I want everything that you own. I will allow you to pick up your 2 dogs, keep the clothes that you currently wear and leave everything else behind. If you give me every last cent and every last asset that you own, then I will introduce you to the love of your life. What do you say?”

My answer is one word.

“Yes.”

And this is why.

To me the decision is simple. It’s a no brainer. From a big picture perspective, I am swapping what I have now “nothing”, with what I vision as my future “everything”.

For me, I see it like this.

I am on this earth to be a great husband and an equally great father. Beyond that, and in comparison to that, nothing else matters. Nothing. I could never have, or own anything that would even come close to comparing to the feeling of a loving wife and children.

If everything I currently own equates to the world, then my future wife equates to the universe. She and the love we will create will be infinite – never ending. To compare the value is impossible.

So to have someone arrive at my front door and offer to reduce my asset rich life to nothing, in exchange for a love rich life of everything, then the answer is simple – yes…….even if it is, at this point in time, just a fantasy.

 

Thanks for taking the time to read my first manwithaplan blog. Vin

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Discussion

  1. Maya  August 17, 2013

    Hi…..How are you going? Strong man…

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    • manwithaplan  August 18, 2013

      Hi Maya
      I am great thanks
      And thankyou for your lovely compliment
      Vin

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  2. jen (nicolemarlins)  August 18, 2013

    Such a romantic guy…how i wish that your cupid will find me… ;)

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    • manwithaplan  August 18, 2013

      Hi Jen
      I appreciate your kind words.
      It seems we have a similar dream for cupid :)
      Vin

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      • jen (nicolemarlins)  August 18, 2013

        I feel so inlove everytime i read this blog about your cupid….i really do wish that my dream w/ cupid will come true :)

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  3. akeisha  August 18, 2013

    such a brave decision..

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    • manwithaplan  August 18, 2013

      Hi Akeisha
      Thank you for the kind description.
      For me it feels natural and the start of something that i have no idea where it will lead.
      I am glad that it caught your eye and even happier for your comments.
      Vin

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  4. akeisha  August 18, 2013

    I believe that Love is the most important thing in this world more than anything else.

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    • manwithaplan  August 18, 2013

      So true!
      Vin

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  5. cc  August 18, 2013

    Hi Vin

    Such a nice surprise to see your sms this afternoon!

    Reading your blog is like experiencing pure poetry of the mind and inner soul. An honesty of writing you should be truly proud of and I wish all men (my Dad excluded as he’s a model man too) could be and express themselves like you do. Perhaps you should run chivalry and dating classes for them, as most I am sad to say don’t have a clue how to whoo or be in a relationship.

    I look forward to more blogs and wish you well in your quest, as I myself have givien up looking for my next love, because I am so over all the bullshit and games.

    Until next time…

    cc x

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    • manwithaplan  August 20, 2013

      Hi Caryn
      Thank you so much. Your compliment is deep and touching.
      Pappa CC should be a proud and happy man with such a daughter.

      And I hear you, regarding giving up on looking for love – it’s a thought that tries to enter my mind at times too.
      What helps me is thinking that each day that I don’t meet the “love of my life”, is one less day that I have to wait. It’s like a countdown to Christmas, and I just don’t know what date Christmas will come – but as each day goes by, it is one day closer I get to the greatest event :)

      One day my gift will arrive, and so will yours too. And if I were you, I wouldn’t give up. You have so much to offer.

      Vin

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  6. Sheryne  August 20, 2013

    Hi Vin, I like what you wrote here :-) And I like your new plan of attack to write this Blog .What a great idea!
    Your a true inspiration to men & women out there, not to give up on finding love & finding that special person they want to share their life with. Sometimes it’s not an easy or direct pathway to get there. I know this, through my own experiences. I’ve been there. And after my last relationship, I thought I would definitely give up. But I haven’t, and I think in some ways I have come out stronger & more determined. I think what’s important at some point, is to reflect on what we can do to improve on ourselfs & change whats not working & change to what works better or feels more natural. Always be yourself, love life, do things you feel is right & never give up hope to find your man Or women.

    Let All You do, Be done with Love!

    S x

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    • manwithaplan  August 21, 2013

      Hi Sheryne
      Thank you for your flattering compliment. It is so pleasing to read such kind words.
      And I agree, the pathway is not always a straight-line highway of relationship bliss (although, it would be very cool if it was!)
      My failures have been very sad for me, but at the same time allowed me to be clearer about what I really want to achieve. And although I’ve had fleeting thoughts of giving up, the experience has actually strengthened my hope and resolve to make it happen. Haha, then I step back again and realise that I cannot make it happen but rather I need to allow it to happen, and position myself and my heart to welcome love into my life.
      Thanks so much for your message, and sharing your experience with me and others.
      Vin

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      • Sheryne  August 23, 2013

        Hi Vin, Your welcome… Happy to share :-) I think it’s great what your doing. Speaking up for what you beleive in & letting your voice be heard by others, in hope to find the Love of your life. I hope your dreams come true & you find her soon :-)

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  7. Beth  August 20, 2013

    Blessed Day Vin!

    Its my first time to read a blog like this and it is heart warming to read something like this coming from a man. Well, its hard to find your true love. But while reading I can see the fire from your heart that LOVE will come. Just be patient. At the right time, with the right person. Thank you for the inspiration!

    Beth

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    • manwithaplan  August 21, 2013

      Hi Beth
      Blessings to you too. I am so happy that my blog has created a feeling of inspiration. Your comment has done the same with me. Thank you :)
      And I agree, the right time with the right person is what it’s all about.
      Vin

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  8. Jrose  August 21, 2013

    Good start Vin, keep the blog going!
    And I hope Cupid finds THE ONE you’d say YES to.. . ;-)

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    • manwithaplan  August 21, 2013

      Hi Rose
      Thank you for your good wishes. Sending the same back to you :)
      Vin

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  9. Tweety  August 21, 2013

    I am sure everyone that has watch the movie ‘Sleepless in Seattle’ (with Tom Hanks).. remembers the part where Tom’s character is on the phone with a radio station describing how he loved his wife following her passing… The raw emotions that Tom’s character displayed while he reminisced about his love for her and how “perfect things were”… *heart melts*

    Well, reading your blog Vin gives me the same heartfelt feeling… So raw, touching, open and honest (not to mention very brave for putting it out there for us all to read). It has given me a renewed hope! That there are still people out there that still DO respect and hold sacred the ideas of good old fashion love for their spouses and family. Too often in today’s society too much emphasis is place on material possession, financial wealth and careers goals.

    Vin, you are a dying pedigree of MEN who has gotten your priorities spot on! I don’t think that it will be very long before you find the love of your life… I am sure with every additional blog you are one step closer to her finding you or you her – Definitely… Very courageous of you and compliments to your efforts! Very creative *standing ovation* ;)

    FOR ANY MALE READERS that may stumble across this blog… This is what you call a real man! A man that values and know a woman’s worth, isn’t afraid to express how he feels with the fear of how it is perceived and is doing what he NEEDS to do to find the the love of his life.

    Keep it up Vin & good luck!!!
    May you find each other really really soon. :) you deserve it!

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    • manwithaplan  August 21, 2013

      Hi Tweety
      Deep thanks for your comprehensive comment, compliments and love.
      I actually have not seen Sleepless in Seattle, I’m a little behind in the romantic movies – I only first watched The Notebook in January this year. Amazing movie!
      Life is Beautiful is my all-time favourite movie, and when I want to watch a romantic movie I always put it on. I have watched it about 30 times. I still choke up throughout the movie and lose it at the tank scene every time :)
      I admire your thoughts about old fashion love. I believe its time “old fashion love” became the “new fashion love”, and always remain in fashion like a black dress – it’s always there for you, you can wear it to anything and you know you will look and feel hot! (I hope I’m right with that analogy, my expertise of the fem wardrobe is limited).

      Thanks again for giving me and others the opportunity to hear your thoughts and discuss the things that really matter.
      Vin

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  10. darol  August 21, 2013

    Good luck mate! I am sure you will find the love of your life soon and make both of you the luckiest persons in the whole wide world ^^

    Cheers
    Darol

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    • manwithaplan  August 22, 2013

      Hi Darol
      Thanks mate! I wish you the same too.
      Vin

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  11. Anita  August 22, 2013

    You can certainly see your enthusiasm within the work you write.
    The world hopes for even more passionate writers
    like you who aren’t afraid to mention how they believe. All the time go after your heart.

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    • manwithaplan  August 22, 2013

      Hi Anita
      Thank you for your kind words.
      I agree. Encouraging more writing and talking from the heart will make the world a better place.
      Vin

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  12. girlfighter  August 23, 2013

    I hope the love of your life likes your 2 dogs. And I hope they like her back.

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    • manwithaplan  August 26, 2013

      Hi Girlfighter
      Thanks for your message. My pooches will love anybody that gives them a pat. And they will keep loving them until they get a pat. Some call it unconditional love :)
      Vin

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  13. Tracey Brecht  August 26, 2013

    Hi Vin,

    What a lovely romantic guy you seem!

    I do hope that you have a thorough understanding of your ego and how to handle it’s response to stimuli as it is going to get quite a stroke in the process of your search! You are probably aware that you are saying all the things that us ladies dream that every man says. I just hope that you have the goods to back up your claims! :) Some of us aren’t so easily sold by the advertising spiel… ;) Male peacocks have their feathers for a reason, but human males need to be more than that.

    I truly believe that if one is mentally prepared and ready (truly and utterly ready), to be vulnerable and to embrace love, then it will find its way into your life in the most timely and facilitatory fashion, totally blowing you away with how quickly and easily it can all fall into place.

    I wish you all the best in your search!

    Love and light,

    Tracey.

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    • manwithaplan  August 26, 2013

      Hi Tracey
      Thank you.
      I found your message touching and generous.
      My words are waiting in excitement for the opportunity to action. I feel each day that I am single, is a missed opportunity to give someone a massive amount of love. I have a reserve of love that is bursting at the walls, and is why this blog and future writings will contain an extensive description of what I believe I have the ability to give, and how I plan to give it.
      This blog is, in many ways, a blessing in “single disguise”, because it allows me to write and explore my personal capacity to give in a relationship. I am able to draw from what I have done in the past, realise where I am now, and dream about what I want to create in the future.

      Thanks again
      Vin

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  14. lina  September 6, 2013

    hey,vin,how are you doing,nice blog,i already read,it seem you are sincere and honest guy.

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    • manwithaplan  September 7, 2013

      Hi Lina
      Thanks for your kind comments, much appreciated :)
      Vin

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  15. jom  September 14, 2013

    I can’t stop smiling when I read this blog !

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    • manwithaplan  September 16, 2013

      Hi Jom
      Thanks :) That is so nice to hear.
      Vin

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  16. teeksy  September 18, 2013

    Many reasons to say why i think you are different from others…well i guess you are passionate about EVERYTHING you do, you thrive on a strong mental and intellectual connection – not purely hormones…. which explains why you are still single whoops :) and probably one of your goals over the past years has become the best version of “yourself” that you can be. This means getting in peak shape, increasing your emotional intelligence, and taking your businesses to the next level i suppose. Therefore, everything’s said and done so i hope you find what you are looking for. have faith! cheers xxx

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    • manwithaplan  September 20, 2013

      Hi Teeksy
      Wow! You are very intuitive. Thanks for your insight. I am surprised with how much is actually true. You derived all of that from reading just 1 blog. Impressive.
      Thank you for your kind comments and interesting evaluation.
      Vin

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  17. Monique  September 29, 2013

    Hey Vin,

    Couldn’t help but smile the whole time I was reading this. You are incredibly romantic and will definitely make some lucky lady immensely happy! I believe we all have a special person out there but sometimes it just takes longer to find one another.

    Xx

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    • manwithaplan  September 30, 2013

      Hi Monique
      I really appreciate your comment and kind words.
      I completely agree with you regarding everyone having a special person somewhere in the world. And although the delay is sometimes a challenge, the wait builds up more and more excitement and anticipation for the day it finally happens.
      Vin

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  18. Edda  September 30, 2013

    Hey Vin!

    How are you romantic guy? How long will it take for cupid to get to Philippines from Australia and hit me? LOL But seriously you really are a very romantic and a genuine person and I do hope someone deserving will be there for you to love and be everything. Like you I know somewhere, somehow there is that one person made and created by God especially for us and we’ll only meet them when we least expect it or in God’s time. Only God knows when.

    Continue writing and inspiring people. God bless you!

    xoxo

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    • manwithaplan  October 23, 2013

      Hi Edda
      Thanks for the lovely comment :)
      It sounds like you are calling for cupid as well. With such a warm message I get the feeling that cupid is just around the corner from you. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and God bless you too.
      Vin

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  19. Dental Clinic in Edmonton  October 2, 2013

    Have you ever considered writing an ebook or guest authoring on other blogs?

    I have a blog centered on the same information you discuss and would really
    like to have you share some stories/information.
    I know my subscribers would enjoy your work. If you are even remotely interested, feel free to shoot me an email.

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    • manwithaplan  October 23, 2013

      Hi Ronnie
      Thanks for your message and nice words.
      Yes, I have considered many things and I have so many stories and insights to share. Ultimately this is about helping me find the love of my life – or allowing her to find me. In the short term I need to be true to me and completely open myself within my blog. I am happy for you to place a link on your site to help your readers visit my writing.
      Beyond this and in the near future I would love to write something for you and your subscribers. I feel honoured by your request and will chat soon.
      Vin

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  20. arch supports  October 8, 2013

    Friendship and money: oil and water.

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    • manwithaplan  October 23, 2013

      Hi Heath
      Thanks for your message.
      I agree, they are very different. And friendship and water are the providers of happiness and life.
      Vin

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  21. Erika  October 8, 2013

    So romantic, you are a gentleman and i like so much your thoughts….

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    • manwithaplan  October 23, 2013

      Hi Erika
      I am grateful for your lovely compliments :)
      Vin

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  22. MAya  October 9, 2013

    A real love letter
    A real love letter is made of insight, understanding, and compassion. Otherwise it’s not a love letter. A true love letter can produce a transformation in the other person, and therefore in the world. But before it produces a transformation in the other person, it has to produce a transformation within us. Some letters may take the whole of our lifetime to write.

    This message from some website….I think you like it too
    Hope you meet special someone soon..Vin

    Maya :)

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  23. gee1030  October 24, 2013

    Hi vin,
    whewww….are you real? hehehe…well i just hope that other men really think this way…and act this way also.. Great mind. Great heart!

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    • manwithaplan  November 13, 2013

      Hi Gee
      Thanks for your kind words :)
      Vin

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  24. Sky  October 28, 2013

    Any woman who will find a man like you can’t say no, if ever she did well I could say she is foolish. Whoever that woman your cupid will bring to you is such a lucky one. I hope that you find her, everything has its right time. (even hope that’s me.) :)

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    • manwithaplan  November 13, 2013

      Hi Sky
      Thanks for your sweet compliment.
      I hope the same for you too. Who knows when, where or how we will meet our future love ;)
      Vin

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  25. Diana  October 28, 2013

    Interesting to read cause you are so passionate the way you delivered such kind of blog. So lovely and amazing that a man could do everything for his woman. Anyway, money can’t buy happiness in reality. Diana

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    • manwithaplan  November 13, 2013

      Hi Diana
      Thank you for your comment and compliment.
      I agree, money does not buy happiness. And who would want to try anyway, because love is free :)
      Vin

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  26. Elissa  November 4, 2013

    Hi Vin,
    The world works in mysterious ways.. your Cupid will strike when you least expect it. Keep believing and one day out of the blue there she will be. I know this as it happened to me once. Until you find “the one” your love can be shared with those close you… family, friends, pets. What you send out you will always receive back . Live, love and laugh and keep on believing x
    E

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    • manwithaplan  November 13, 2013

      Hi Elissa
      Thanks for your comment.
      I agree. Living life by loving, laughing and believing is the only way to be.
      Vin

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  27. Kia Kaha  November 5, 2013

    How true are your words..
    To give up everything you own to be enriched in true love..
    Material belongings can always be replaced but true life long love is a once in a lifetime opportunity..
    To be fulfilled in life means love, family and happiness with each other.. Without any of that you will always feel a sense of loneliness and a life that is never fulfilled ..
    I hope one day your Cupid enriches your life with true happiness :)

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    • manwithaplan  November 13, 2013

      Hi Kia
      Thank you for your thoughts and compliment:)
      We have a similar perspective. Everything that matters in my life will be the love of my future wife and children and the happiness we share with each other. And the rest, although important, will follow at a distant second.
      Vin

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  28. wow gold  November 10, 2013

    Very energetic post, I liked that bit. Will there be a part 2?

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    • manwithaplan  November 13, 2013

      Hi Wow
      I appreciate your nice comment.
      I am working on part 2 now – finding love.
      And given that this blog exists entirely for that goal, then I am not sure what will happen with the website when I find the love of my life. It may evolve into something else or completely disappear. That will be a decision I make with my future wife. But what-ever happens, I will keep you posted :)
      Vin

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  29. Milagros  November 12, 2013

    Hi Vin, I confess that I read over and over again what you’ve written. I feel emotion pressing my chest and my eyes. Perfect love comes with the same intensity with which you formed without any hesitation on this blog. I thank you for inviting me to read because you have given me a very special moment. Thank you very much.

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    • manwithaplan  November 13, 2013

      Hi Milagros
      Thank you for your appreciation and compliment.
      I am happy to create that reaction for you. Your comment does the same for me. Sharing intense feelings about love is so enjoyable for me.
      Vin

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  30. nikky  November 15, 2013

    my heart just melted :)

    wow is all i can say xoxo

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    • manwithaplan  November 21, 2013

      Hi Nikky
      I appreciate your kind message. Thankyou
      Vin

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  31. jovelle  December 13, 2013

    Wow you are so amazing… wish I could have that a love of my life… very well said vin… a family oriented man like you.. it’s not hard for you to find your love of your life.. just have faith..
    Take care always
    God bless.

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    • manwithaplan  December 28, 2013

      Hi Jovelle
      I appreciate your comment and kind words.
      Finding the love is proving an interesting challenge. Which thankfully comes with the greatest of rewards. I do have faith and I am thankful for your good spirits.
      Vin

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  32. 新作 スタンドカラージャケット 大人気  December 16, 2013

    Hello! I’ve been reading your website for a while now
    and finally got the bravery to go ahead and give you a shout out from Dallas
    Tx! Just wanted to mention keep up the great job!

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    • manwithaplan  December 28, 2013

      Hello
      Thankyou for your comment and support :)
      All the way from Dallas tells me that my search for love is reaching far and wide.
      And I am grateful for your bravery to send me a message. It can be a confronting sharing comments for the world to see, so big thanks to you.
      Vin

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  33. 注目 クラッチバッグ 激安  December 18, 2013

    I could not refrain from commenting. Exceptionally well written!

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    • manwithaplan  December 28, 2013

      Hello
      Thanks so much. Thanks for taking the time to share a little love :)
      Vin

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